Three Approaches to Raising Children. Which one is yours?

There are multiple parenting styles and techniques in the world but only a few approaches. Studies show that most parenting styles and techniques can be narrowed down to three approaches.

Knowing what theses approaches are helps us parents take an objective look at ourselves and our parenting. This article is not suggesting what’s right or wrong. Your own thoughts and convictions will determine which approach you find more favorable.

The 3 Approaches to Parenting are below. Read to find out which approach is your current parenting method.  

#1. Permissive Parenting

Permissive parenting is an approach where the parents allow the child to decide how to behave. The child then learns from the consequences of their actions.  Permissive parents usually believe that adults should never use the power of authority to punish children.

Pro:  The child takes personal responsibility for his/her actions due to choice and not force.

Con: The parenting approach removes the adult from the equation and the child becomes responsible for their own parenting.

What it looks like:

What it sounds like: “I suppose you’ll clean your room when you feel like it.” “You can go to bed whenever you want to go.”

#2. Authoritarian Parenting

Authoritarian Parenting is the oldest and most widely used approach for raising children. In this method parents take charge by using their power and authority to punish their children in order to teach them what to do. 

Pro: Children learn to follow orders and to conform to existing conditions.

Con: Children grow up to be outer-directed, meaning that they look to people outside themselves to decide what to think and how to act.

What it looks like: 

What is sounds like: Command Statements. “Sit Down.” “Shut Up.” “Clean up this room now! “Hurry it up.”

#3. Breakthrough Parenting

Breakthrough Parenting is when the responsibility for solving problems is shared between parent and child. The child is not given permission to not be responsible, nor is the child given commands on what exactly to do. Instead parents guide their children in responsibility.

Pro: This approach teaches children through discipline instead of punishment.

Con: For many people, Breakthrough Parenting is not an approach that comes naturally because it wasn't around in previous generations. It is a new skill and an approach that requires exposure and practice.

What it looks like:

What is sounds like: “Since your room is a mess, what area do you want to start cleaning up first?” “It’s bedtime. Would you like to say prayers first or have a story?”

I know I was brought up in an authoritarian home. That’s just the way it was, and I hear so many people say that they turned out okay..…..and we have turned out okay. But for those parents who are like me, that are out there looking for new ways to give their child an even better experience than the one’s they had growing up, Breakthrough Parenting  just may be worth looking into.  

  

There is a FREE webinar that will cover Breakthrough Parenting techniques. Imagine parenting as a toolbox, and your skills/methods are the tools. You will always benefit with more tools in your toolbox. Sometimes we use our old tools because they’re comfortable, familiar, and effective and sometimes we look for the new fancy gadgets because they are absolutely wonderful and they make life easier. Get where I’m going?

So to get some new tools and to sharpen up some of your old tools, join me as I host a free Webinar. This free Webinar will cover the following…

-Assuring your child’s success

-The Parents Role As A Child’s Steward

-Discipline Vs. Punishment

-Outer Directed Vs. Inner Directed

-Fear Based Parenting Vs. Love Based Parenting

-…And much, much more.

Register for the FREE online seminar scheduled Friday, August 8, 2014 at 10:00 PST. The Webinar will be emailed to you so if you are not available to attend during that time, you will be able to watch the Webinar anytime at your own convenience.  Once you receive your email confrontation with all the details, feel free to forward the information to friends or family members that may be interested. Take advantage of this $79.99 value for FREE!

To sign up for the the Webinar, simply send an email to shiradillon@gmail.com and include your first and last name, phone number, and preferred email address. A conformation email will be sent to you containing all the details. Take advantage of an opportunity to learn Breakthrough Parenting with Shira!

Shira Dillon was born in Gary, Indiana. She holds a Master's Degree in Secondary Education, and a Bachelor's Degree in Speech, Theater, and English Education.  Shira is a SAG/AFTRA actress and comedian that infuses her talents in the entertainment industry, her own childhood experiences, and her 15+ years of experience in the school system to help parents and teens all over the country fix their life and relationships.  With the release of her teen self-help book, Sex, Drugs, and Other Elephants:How To Deal With Teenage Issues, Shira has been highly sought out for parenting/teaching consulting, coaching, workshops, and speaking engagements.  You can email Shira Dillon for a free consultation and for any inquiries +Shira Nicole shiradillo@gmail.com