Top 3 Private Places That Are Now Public On Social Media!

Lets face it. Everyone enjoys their privacy. It's the reason why we have locks on our doors, passwords on our accounts, and keys to our diaries that hold the innermost secrets to our heart. For many people in today's generation, journals, photo albums, and other keepsakes are becoming extinct because, let's face it, with a click of a button we can just post it on social media. This electronic database on the web now documents and publishes what use to be our most private thoughts and intimate memories. It makes me sometimes yearn for the good old days when we had designated locations to be ourselves, exposed our inner freaks, and ironed out our dirty laundry. Instead with the click of a button and a social media account, confidentiality now becomes a reality for all to read, watch, degrade, mock, and dote on.

So here are my top 3 places that are losing its privacy because its now being played out on social media instead of where it was intended to play out.

1. The Bedroom. The bedroom is the most intimate place in the home.  It was where "ALL THE MAGIC" happened. Today we can see that magic with one finger click on social media.  It was one thing when internet porn became a spreading breed, but social media is with many of the people we personally know. It is where we meet up with old and new friends, family members, and people that one can easily run into at the corner store. Unfortunately, what happened last night in a person's bedroom can easily be seen on a social media newsfeed instantaneously. The delete button is not the solution. People need to think twice before they post a picture, video, or a descriptive essay of what's going on in the bedroom. What a person does in their bedroom is truly their business; not the world's business. 

2. The ManCave. Remember how Al Bundy from Married with Children would go in his basement, and Dan from Rosanne would go in his garage?  Every man needs a man cave. A place where men can go and be men. They can tuck their hands comfortably in their crotch, drink beer, and look at naked pics of women in provocative poses until their hearts content. Now, the ManCave can easily be seen at a social media timeline near you. I won't go into detail of all that is said and done in a Man Cave but I will say that it was meant to be private. Sometimes women don't need to see that side of a man and sometimes men need to be able to be men without the subconscious influence of other women.

3. The Closet. Do you remember that "closet" where people would keep their skeletons? That wasn't necessarily a bad thing. Some skeletons need to remain in the closet. All 5,000 of your Facebook friends or twitter followers do not need to know your skeletons. And let me tell you something, they are not going to tell you there's anything wrong with you exposing your skeletons because your life tragedies are apart of their entertainment enjoyment. There are a host of things that's going on that do not need to be aired out all over social media. Do Your Work and Fix Your Life! Empty out the skeletons in your closet with a counselor, therapist, or life coach that can actually help you and not on your social media where you become the entertainment of hundreds of people who are tuned into your page like you're a ratchett reality star.

It's not social media's fault that what was once private and secluded is now public. It's the individual users that choose to be too much of an open book. The bedroom, man-cave, and closet kept people out of your business. Now everyone is in everyone else's business and yet it's......None of their business!

Shira Dillon was born in Gary, Indiana. She holds a Master's Degree in Secondary Education, and a Bachelor's Degree in Speech, Theater, and English Education.  Shira is a SAG/AFTRA actress and comedian that infuses her talents in the entertainment industry, her own childhood experiences, and her 15+ years of experience in the school system to help parents and teens all over the country fix their life and relationships.  With the release of her teen self-help book, Sex, Drugs, and Other Elephants:How To Deal With Teenage Issues, Shira has been highly sought out for parenting/teaching consulting, coaching, workshops, and speaking engagements.  You can email Shira Dillon for a free consultation and for any inquiries +Shira Nicole shiradillo@gmail.com

Get Some Boundaries and Have Them Respected!!!

In Steve Harvey's book Act Like A Lady, Think Like A Man, he tells his readers that it is crucial for women to set up boundaries/standards of what women will and will NOT take and to make that known to the pursuer in a dating relationship.

I agree that it is important for both parties in a romantic relationship to establish boundaries, but this  should not stop with a romantic relationship.

                                 We need boundaries in parent-child relationships!!!

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-Boundaries are needed in a host of different relationships. Especially when the members of the relationship live in the same household such as parent-child relationships.

-Both the boundaries of the parent as well as the child (after a certain age) should be agreed upon and honored.

-Boundaries mark when a person feels comfortable or uncomfortable, safe or unsafe, loved or unloved.

-Relationships fail, even parent-child relationships, when boundaries are not honored.

If you have a child that is not respecting boundaries, then there are three things that must be in place to begin helping that child to honor the boundaries established for the household.

 1.  Parents show your children what it means to recognize and respect other's boundaries through your own personal example.  

Today's generation are not accepting the "do as I say, not as I do" cliche of the past.

2. Parents insist that your boundaries are respected as well. 

Do not fall in a permissive state and allow your children to disrespect the boundaries.

3. Be honest and admit your mistakes.  It takes a healthy self-esteem to admit you have violated another's boundaries and to apologize.

While Steve Harvey encourages his female readers to establish boundaries at the beginning of the relationship and to use these boundaries in determining when to exit the relationship, a parent-child relationship is one that we should never terminate.

If there are little to no boundaries in your household then GET SOME.

If the boundaries are not being respected then GET HELP.

Parenting Coaches and Consultants can easily help a family get back on tract by supporting the parent and helping the parent fix some of the normal issues that come with raising children.

It makes sense to get help from someone who is well studied and experienced in these matters with a proven track record.

I am a parenting coach and consultant and can help you set some boundaries in your household.

If you ready to move your family from struggle to cooperation then feel free to contact me for support i at shiradillon@gmail.com

There's a great Breakthrough out there for your family.

You just have to be willing to go get it.

Thank You for Reading!

Shira Dillon is a Certified Master Breakthrough Parenting Instructor and Consultant. Shira is a proud mother of her six year old son. She has counselled children and parents for over fifteen years as a school teacher with both the Los Angeles Unified School District as well as the Gary Community School Corp and is the author of Sex, Drugs, and Other Elephants:How To Deal With Teenage Issues.  To remain in touch with Shira and to learn about her free upcoming parenting class and book giveaway email her at shiradillon@gmail.com and like her FB page ParentsTeachersandTeens for free parenting tips.  

LOVE OR FEAR: WHAT GUIDES YOUR PARENTING?

It has been said that there are only two motivating forces in life.

These forces are Love and Fear. 

When we operate in love we are operating at our best self.

When we parent in love we are parenting at our best self.

In order for an adult to improve the situations in the home between parent and child one must honestly take time to look within and to evaluate their own parenting styles.

Are you parenting in a force of love or fear?

It is possible to operate in both love and fear but NOT at the same time.

Parents normally shift between love and fear based on the circumstances that are thrown their way.

When children do good things, the essence of a parent's being become flooded with love.

When children misbehave, a parent may engulf a spirit of fear that can result in raised voices, harsh words, and severe punishment in order to show the child the consequences of their poor behavior.

This is how many people have grown up for centuries.

We send out vibrations of love when things are going well and in turn spew out vibrations of fear, anger, and guilt when things are bad.

It's what we have been exposed to as the way to solve problems in the home and to make the child obey.

                                However, how do you feel when you are operating in fear?
                             
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What emotions are you releasing on yourself, your children, and everyone in your path?

In heated situations, are you allowing love to guide your parenting or have your emotions shifted into fear?

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I want to breakdown 3 approaches to raising children.  Two of these approaches have been existing and in heavy practice since the beginning of time. But only one of these approaches keeps the parent and child in the force of love no matter the obstacle that the family may be dealing with.

                         Read the three types of parenting and determine which one are you?

1. Permissive Parenting- the children are allowed to unfold without the direction of their parents. It is assumed that the child will naturally make the right choices when ready. (i.e., Johnny, whenever you are ready to clean your room, I suppose you'll do it.  I'll just let you sit in a dirty room until you figure out you should clean it.)

2.  Authoritarian Parenting-  is the oldest and most widely-used approach. Parents take charge by using their power and authority to punish their children in order to teach them what to do. (i.e., Johnny, clean up this room now or there will be no television for a week! Do it NOW!)

3.  Breakthrough Parenting- the responsibility for solving problems is shared between parent and child. Parents teach by using discipline instead of punishment. Parents use influence instead of control. (i.e., Johnny, your room is a mess, what is your plan for cleaning this room? Tell me the best way for you to clean your room immediately?

When I first began studying Breakthrough Parenting, I couldn't say that I operated as a breakthrough parent. I was not raised by a breakthrough parent.  While I liked the shared responsibility between mother and child, I felt that "Clean your room now was just as effective." It wasn't until I began studying and talking to thousands of teens, young adults, and parents that I learned that there is always ways to improve on our parenting methods.

Children who feel that they are being controlled with anger, punishment, and loud outbursts eventually rebel and experience emotional consequences in their adult life.

While these methods may seem to work initially, the method is only temporary.

Oftentimes, when we instill fear in our children to get them to behave, it's equivalent to putting a band-aid on a festering sore.

We need to instill love in our children for long lasting results while teaching them how to become responsible members of society.

My goal for my own children and the 500 plus students I teach each year as a high school English and Theater Teacher is for every child to develop self-mastery.

Self-Mastery is the power to control one's actions, impulses, and emotions.

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Breakthrough Parenting with love is a great way to learn self-mastery and to turn any parenting struggles into cooperation.

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-Effective discipline in a way that promotes willing cooperation from your children
-How to communicate so that everyone listens and understands
-Resolve conflicts quickly and easily with win/win methods
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